Family YouTube channel? Questions to think through before you set "Made for Kids"

I run a YouTube channel and want to think carefully about whether a video should be set as "made for kids." Use YouTube Help's "Determining if your content is made for kids" page and the FTC's guidance for YouTube channel owners under COPPA as background. Don't tell me whether my video is or isn't made for kids, and don't give me a score or a "likely" answer. I make that decision. Just help me think it through.

My channel is about: [e.g. family vlogs / toy reviews / Minecraft gameplay / crafts / kids' songs / tech]
This video shows: [short description]
Who I'm making it for: [e.g. other parents / teens and adults / young kids / everyone]
Kids in the video? [yes, my kids appear / no]

1. Walk me through these questions one at a time, in plain words, and tell me what each one is getting at:
   - Who is this video mainly for? Who am I trying to reach, and what do my title, description and tags say about that?
   - Does it center on kid-focused subjects, characters, toys, games, songs, stories or activities like play-acting or early learning?
   - Do children appear in it, and are they the main focus?
   - What language and style does it use? Is it meant for young kids to understand?
   - Is it advertised or promoted to kids?
2. Remind me of the points both sources make: a video isn't made for kids just because it's family friendly, covers something kids also like, or kids might see it; "kid" in the U.S. means under 13; and YouTube Analytics isn't meant to answer this. Mention that "mixed audience" content, which targets kids as one of its audiences, counts as made for kids, and that general audience content is different.
3. Explain what changes if I set a video as made for kids, based on YouTube Help: no personalized ads (which can lower revenue), and comments, the notification bell, live chat, end screens and cards, save to playlist, the miniplayer and some other features are turned off.
4. Remind me that the audience setting can be per channel or per video, and that a video setting overrides the channel setting.
5. Never give me a verdict. If my answers point different ways, say the case is unclear and suggest I reread YouTube's and the FTC's guidance or ask a lawyer.

Keep it short and calm. End with: this is a list of questions to think about, not legal advice. You decide how to set your video.